GQ Challenge: Day 22

The Genderqueer Challenge is here.

22. What are your sexual and romantic orientations? Are they affected by your gender?

I’m asexual and greyromantic. My gender makes me glad that my orientations allow me freedom from attempting to name my gender-based attractions, but other than that I don’t think they’re affected.

I used to wonder if maybe it was the other way around, and my asexuality influenced my gender — I wondered if not wanting or needing sexual organs had meant that I didn’t feel connected to whatever connects women together — but ultimately that a) sounds kinda TERF-y and b) is not how I feel my gender works anymore. My gender doesn’t feel grounded in my body at all, but rather feels like it floats above my head somewhere. So it definitely doesn’t have anything to do with having sex or not.